My husband and I got married on November 10th, 2019! It was a magical day and it truly is the best feeling to see everybody together witnessing such a big moment in our life. We were surrounded by so much love and celebration. I will also say that after spending a year plus planning a wedding, it is a dang good feeling to see everybody having a good time 🙂
For the brides-to-be, I want to start with a few reminders that helped me:
- Nobody will remember which chair they were sitting in at dinner, you do not have to do the $80/person seat upgrade. I will be the first to admit that I got a little swept up in Style Me Pretty/Pinterest while planning. I was talking to my mom about upgrading to the King Louis chairs and my mom said “Do you remember the chairs at XX’s wedding?” And of course not!! You remember how the bride and groom look at each other, what funny tidbits you learn about them from their parents speeches, having a great time on the dance floor seeing people you might not have seen since college. I know it is easier said than done, but do not take the joy out of planning by worrying about somebody nobody will even remember.
- Spend your time preparing for your marriage, not just your wedding. Brad and I read The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman and How to Be Married by Jo Piazza. We also answered thought-provoking questions about our relationship and our future from our officiant. I found that if I was getting too stressed about details, it helped me to do something that was grounding and fostered connection. It is a good reminder for the reason behind the whole day 🙂
- Get comfortable saying “No.” This is real ironic coming from me, but you really need to set boundaries. If you have lots of people with strong feelings, it will not be humanly possible to please everybody. Understand that they are coming from a place of love and that they are just excited to be celebrating with you. Gently and lovingly tell them how you are feeling and what you had envisioned.
- Your wedding guests are looking to you to set the tone. If you are happy, they will be happy.
- Talk about your budget with your partner early and often.
You know how they say, “It takes a village.” Well, weddings are a PERFECT example of that! Here are all our vendors who I love and adore. They put together this day even better than I imagined!
- Wedding Planner: Cara Goset, Michelle Garibay Events
- Photographer: Allie Lindsey Photography
- Videographer: Emma Lynn Cinema
- Band: Ben Mallare Band
- Live Painter: Laura Jane Fine Art
- Hair: Lisa Berry, Simplicity Hair Studio
- Make-up: Katelyn Berry
- Cake and Caramel Apples: The Kilted Cake
- Rentals: Rickety Swank, Hostess Haven, Something Borrowed
- Flowers: Soiree Floral Design
- Venue: Temecula Creek Inn, Stone House
Let me know if you have any questions 🙂 I love talking about weddings!
Carol sent me the link to your blog, and I LOVE it! It’s creative, professional, fun and educational. The recipes look SO good, I will try some in the very near future. I love your wedding photos! By reading your blog I can tell that this is your passion, and it feels so good to do something that you really like.
Good luck and continuous success with that!
love to you and Brad
May (Naddav’s mom)